HIS: What I've learned from 1 Year of Marriage

My wife and I have known one another for right around 9 years and to be honest when going into marriage I didn’t think much would change. Well a year later I’ve come to the conclusion that I was completely wrong, and that’s a truly wonderful thing.

The day after we got married was a day I’ll never forget. I remember waking up a few minutes before Jalesa and the sun was shining perfectly on her face like a scene from one of those super cheesy romantic comedies. My first thought that morning was for the rest of my life this woman will be by my side, and that was the first time I can truly say I smiled with my whole heart.

A year later that smile still remains and new wisdom has grown from it. I’ve learned to focus on equality and that my wife should always feel like we stand on the same stage. That we should always be equal no matter what. I also learned that over my life time I learned a lot of stereotypes about marriages and the roles husbands and wives play. It has been a battle trying to unlearn those negative stereotypes, but Jalesa and I are constantly challenging one another to grow beyond the battles we face. This past year has had its fair share of battles, but I’ve passed each one due to having my wife by my side.

Marriage in today’s world often is seen in a negative light which is a truly sad sight to have. I truly believe that to find someone who you can spend the rest of your life with is amazing. Marriage doesn’t mean that you know someone completely or that you will always be happy every single day. Marriage is a collection of choices that results in something magical. Marriage is one of the greatest adventures you will ever have in this life time. That brings me to one of the most important lessons I’ve learned this year: Always remember to enjoy the adventure.

The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD -  Proverbs 18:22