You Can't Compare Moms

"There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a great one."

I remember when I became a mother, I was absolutely terrified. There were so many things I wanted to do right and so many things I prayed I wouldn't get wrong. Being a mom is hard. I know a lot of times we see it being portrayed as "easy" on social media but that's only a snapshot of what being a mom can be.

I instantly started comparing myself to other moms. I would see a mom doing something with their child and I would try it with mine and instantly failed. Or I would catch myself not doing certain things that my own mother used to do with me, which also ended as an epic fail.

I am not those other moms. My child is not those other children. So what works for them may not work for me. Their parenting style may not be mine, and that is okay. Like the quote says, there are a million ways to be a mom, a great mom. Just because you are a different kind of mom than your mom, or the mom next door, or on Instagram doesn't make you a bad one.

We also gotta remember mamas, we can't be so hard on ourselves. Parenting is hard. We carry a lot on our shoulders so comparing each other isn't going to make it any easier. We all have those picture perfect moments and we all have those moments when we want to rip our hair out and down a whole bottle of wine. It happens. 

You're doing a great job as a mom.

You're a great mom.

You're child is incredibly blessed to have you as his/her mom.

There is not another mama like you.

God trusted you enough and believed in you enough and blessed you to be a mother.

So embrace the kind of mom that you are. Be proud of your mom type and brush off the ones who disapprove and embrace the ones that do. 

As long as you are giving infinite amounts of love to your little human and raising him/her to the best of your HUMAN ability, because we are all human, then that is all that matters.

So don't get trapped in comparison. Motherhood should be judgement free and we as moms should remember that a little more.

Love & Light,

Jalesa